To all the father's of daughters out there, let me say this...
Stop making all the "I got my shotgun" comments about your daughter with boys. It only causes harm to your daughters, and is not a deterrent to the boys.
Each of your daughters are beautiful, smart and has the potential to be anything they want to be. So what guy wouldn't want to be with them? But thanks to you making all these shotgun comments since they are infants, your daughters feel ashamed and afraid, like they are putting their boyfriends at risk by being attractive.
And if you think your daughter and a boy getting hot and heavy with teenage hormones is going to suddenly stop because you threatened to shoot, you should know better. You were that boy once so you know what they are thinking (as you always say to justify yourself when the shotgun comments make your daughter uncomfortable).
You may think you are showing your love and reinforcing healthy boundaries to your daughter by making these comments.
You are not.
All you are doing is making your daughter feel shame over her sexuality and her womanhood.l
You are literally creating "daddy issues."
You are hampering the relationship you may have with any future son in law who might love your daughter as much as you do someday,
You are disrupting your own relationship with your daughter. (Would you trust someone who always makes comments about shooting people close to you?)
You are teaching your daughter she has to be protected and even "managed" by a man. And she will be more likely to engage in a relationship with a guy who will try to "manage" her, as a result.
So keep your guns. By all means, Use them if you have too!
Teach your daughter to shoot them herself. Then shut up about it.
Teach her she gets to decide what she does, and with whom she does it.
Let your daughter be the one to threaten a too-handsy date with a firearm.
And then tell her how proud you are of her and that you trust her. Then you will know you have protected your little girl to the very best of your ability for the rest of her life.
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