So I randomly was curious about Pauly Shore (I don't know why, I just was) so I Googled him and l instantly lost all interest in Pauly because Google showed a picture of Carla Gugino. Apparently she was the chick in Son In Law. I only knew her as the hot mom in Spy Kids but IMDB says she has been in just about every movie and TV show since 2000, which is approximately when I stopped watching TV and Movies. She was even in the first Season of Saved by the Bell when it was called Good Morning Miss Bliss and took place in Indiana I got a little obsessive over Carla Gugino for a moment). And that exposed me to old pictures of Kelly Kopowski, better known as Tiffani Amber Thiessen. And in that moment I realized that my strange tolerance of Jenna Coleman is because she looks a little like she would be Kelly Kopowski's little half sister. Then I started to imagine plot lines for a Saved by the Bell episode where "Jenny Kopowski" comes to visit and bayside and jelly gets jealous of all the attention Jenny gets so she and Zak break up, only Jenny falls in love with Scretch which makes Lisa jealous but she won't admit it but enlists Zak's help to secretly humiliate her by convincing him that getting Jenny to move away is the only way to get jelly back. Mean while Slater tried to hook up with Kelly off the rebound which makes Jessie "indignant" so she teams up with Jenny to get back at slater. Hilarity Ensues!!! It might have to be a two parter.
This is what happens to me when my wife goes to work and the kid takes a nap.
Shame is a an inherent hedge to selfishness. It's a counter balance back to the good of the whole vs everyone's natural self interest.
We as society have incorporated shame into almost all our forms of discipline. Shame isn't inherent in correction or discipline, it's just been placed there for so long we think it's natural.
This practice is so ubiquitous that any action that requires correction is seen as shame worthy. This means that making a mistake is treated as if it is selfishness. Failure is assumed to be done on purpose for the person's own nefarious motives. How is a mistake a crime against the greater good? We literally make people who try and fail out to be social pariahs, and we don't even realize it.
On the extreme end you have athletes who miss game winning shots or just lose a particular contest and the social outcry is to shame them and fire them, and replace them with someone else. We know this is unfair but we justify it by the amount of money involved. But we do the same thing at high school and little league where the money rationalization doesn't exist, and we don't even realize it.
Worse, we do it in schools, at our jobs, to the people behind the fast food counter, the sales clerk, the guy driving that blue car, the mail man, the lady with a crying baby, and most often of all, our closest family members.