Anxiety is what happens when emotions are avoided. Not people, not places, not things, not events (yeah, all that stuff gets avoided too). It's emotions that count in avoidance.
Psychosis maybe what happens when the message of our emotions are ignored for too long. If emotions are trying to tell us something, and they get more intense when we don't pay attention to them and actually go so far to suppress and sublimate them , then it's possible they could re-emerge as extra-sensory stimuli in individuals with brans susceptible to distortions in sensory integration.
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Science reveals the key to success in life! So why can't the Seahawks win another Super Bowl?10/1/2017 Did you know October is Resilience month? I only know because I saw a sign. Here it is... In the spirit of resilience month I wanted to become more enlightened on resilience, perseverance, diligence and self control. (http://www.corevirtues.net/oct.html). So I have been reading the book Grit by Angela Duckworth. Duckworth is a psychology professor at the University of Pennsylvania, who has defined Grit as "perseverance plus passion" and claims it is the key trait for success. Duckworth's work on Grit has been championed by Seattle Seahawks head coach Pete Carrol as a quality he seeks out and then tries to instill in his players. Here a a video of Carrol and Duckworth presenting on Grit at Seattle University. http://www.seahawks.com/news/2016/05/20/seahawks-coach-pete-carroll-and-dr-angela-duckworth-discuss-grit-town-hall-event Here is Duckworth speaking to the Seahawks player on Grit. http://www.seahawks.com/video/2015/05/19/angela-duckworth-talks-grit-seahawks After watching both of those videos you may be really pumped up and feeling "Gritty," or you may have some doubts, questions or concerns about the role of Grit in success. If you are the later, here is a thought provoking critique of Duckworth's work on Grit and it's implications. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/the-limits-of-grit/amp Perhaps more attention should be paid to the passion part of the Grit formula? But I'll just save that for when I see a sign that says it is Passion Month. Tony Daltoso LMHC Remember, creating something of value is great, but creation doesn't make any money.
Distribution makes the money! Just Ask the Beatles. Hell, Ask Apple Music. Ask Apple. Ask HP in 1981. Ask Pixar before Disney. Ask Disney before DisneyDVD. Ask Porn, Cat Videos, and Random-musing-self-aggrandizement (blogs) like this one before the internet. Ask Cat owners about their cat videos before I Can Haz Cheeseburger. Ask an old box of books before Amazon. Ask 140 character before Twitter. Ask a garage full of junk before Ebay. Ask Plato and Aristotle before the Renaissance but after the Siege of Alexandria and subsequent burning of the library there in 48 BC Ask "Giving someone a ride" before Uber. Ask Muhammad Ali what he would have been like with ESPN covering his career? Ask Big Baller Brand who? What? What other examples of distribution making the difference can you come up with? Share in the comments. To all the father's of daughters out there, let me say this... Stop making all the "I got my shotgun" comments about your daughter with boys. It only causes harm to your daughters, and is not a deterrent to the boys. Each of your daughters are beautiful, smart and has the potential to be anything they want to be. So what guy wouldn't want to be with them? But thanks to you making all these shotgun comments since they are infants, your daughters feel ashamed and afraid, like they are putting their boyfriends at risk by being attractive. And if you think your daughter and a boy getting hot and heavy with teenage hormones is going to suddenly stop because you threatened to shoot, you should know better. You were that boy once so you know what they are thinking (as you always say to justify yourself when the shotgun comments make your daughter uncomfortable). You may think you are showing your love and reinforcing healthy boundaries to your daughter by making these comments. You are not. All you are doing is making your daughter feel shame over her sexuality and her womanhood.l You are literally creating "daddy issues." You are hampering the relationship you may have with any future son in law who might love your daughter as much as you do someday, You are disrupting your own relationship with your daughter. (Would you trust someone who always makes comments about shooting people close to you?) You are teaching your daughter she has to be protected and even "managed" by a man. And she will be more likely to engage in a relationship with a guy who will try to "manage" her, as a result. So keep your guns. By all means, Use them if you have too! Teach your daughter to shoot them herself. Then shut up about it. Teach her she gets to decide what she does, and with whom she does it. Let your daughter be the one to threaten a too-handsy date with a firearm. And then tell her how proud you are of her and that you trust her. Then you will know you have protected your little girl to the very best of your ability for the rest of her life. This past March I had the pleasure of attending the American Counseling Association's annual conference in San Francisco California. The American Counseling Association or ACA for short is a professional organization that represents and advocates for Counselors from all different fields from mental health to school to career and rehabilitation counseling. It also represents and advocates for counselor educators and helps to shape the values of the counseling profession through it's code of ethics. Ethics were a particularly popular subject this year. This year's ACA conference was initially planned to be held in Nashville Tennessee however Tennessee passed house bill 1840 which asserted the right for counselors to refer clients to other professionals based on conflicting values or deeply held spiritual believes which might be in opposition with those of the client. This is in direct violation of the ACA code of ethics which holds that counselors have an ethical obligation to serve their clientele to the best of their abilities in spite of conflicting values and only to refer when it's a question of competence or expertise for a client's particular issue. Debates both within the ACA and in the media across the nation and particularly within the state of Tennessee ensued. Ultimately concerns of a partisan conservative legislative bill opening the door for possible exclusionary if not prejudicial practices by counselors in Tennessee led to the 2017 ACA conference being held in what might be the most liberal place on earth, San Francisco California. However the typical celebratory revelry of the conference on the backdrop of the recent polarized political climate in this country turned the focus of this year's conference towards a shared vision of counselors as advocates and agents of change in their individual communities and in society at large. It was noted on more than one occasion that an organization with 56,000 members, such that The ACA is, can have tremendous influence on the world. Political leanings aside, counselors both as individuals and collectively with a shared vision of unity can wield great power in the world if each Counselor acknowledges and embraces the influence they have. What many people don't realize is that counseling is more than just compensating for mental health issues. This became very apparent at the ACA conference as Counselors versed all different types of psychological theory and therapeutic techniques mingled with Counselor educators advancing evolving ideals of what it means to "be a Counselor." The picture that emerged for many attendees is that Counseling is a means of improving the world by better individuals forming better relationships with each other, strengthening communities and everyone else that those communities impact. Counselors have a role and mission that transcends the day to day focus on reducing psychosis or depression symptoms. As a counselor I personally appreciated this sentiment. I didn't always feel comfortable with the natural political bend that gets exerted by a setting such as San Francisco (I tend to be a pretty moderate guy and sometimes people's passion can pull them towards the extremes). I none the less whole heartedly endorse the broadened scope of influence counseling and counselors can and should have in the world. Counselors can and should advocate for the change they want to see in their communities. Some of the notable ways suggested at the 2017 ACA conference that counselors can perform such a broader mission were; Counselors can provide outreach education, and skill building opportunities in the form of classes, workshops or groups, they can provide expertise and contribute to the discussion of issues through the media via op-Ed pieces in local newspapers, blogging, hosting or even sponsoring events, going into schools, businesses and organizations to teach, inform and advocate, creating Counselor groups and networks to support each other and the industry at large, and most importantly exemplifying the ethics of inclusion respect and tolerance that we would show to our own clients to the whole wide world. This is indeed a tall order for those of us counselors who tend to appreciate and enjoy the solitary, almost apart from the greater world, one on one nature of our individual counseling sessions. None the less, the challenge and call to action was made, and it remains to be seen how many of the over 4000 counselors and educators in attendance at the 2017 ACA conference will accept that challenge. Not a Counselor? No problem! There are several ways that you can contribute to counseling and this broader mission, and none of them require you to be a counselor yourself or even go to grad school. For example; you can attend counseling yourself, to grow, to change, to learn about your self or others, or to improve a skill set or just to see what it's like. Then if you're comfortable you can share your counseling experience with others inspiring them to possibly take action to improve themselves and their relationships with others. You too can ask questions about how you want the future of your communities to be, and then you can organize your own groups of like-minded community members to advocate for and promote this vision. Then you can even partner with us counselors to address the concerns and needs your group has for the community. By sharing your stories and visions of the future with people that you know and trust you're helping to break down barriers and stigma associated with counseling and mental health. This will make it easier for future individuals to find, obtain, and get the most out of a counseling experience for themselves. And, just like throwing rocks in a pond, the ripple effect of Counseling continues to grow and expand into the ever deepening waters of the world we live in. www.counseling.org/conference/sanfrancisco2017 Of all of JRR Tolkien's great works I probably dislike the lord of the rings the most. While the hobbit is a fantastic fairy tale and the Silmarillion is a mythic cosmology, and the Akallabeth brilliantly turns the human existential drama on its head (more on that later) the lord of the rings merges those two worlds to essentially tell the story of a servant who selflessly and heroically saves the world to claw his way up to the middle class. Lowly servant Samwise Gamgee saves the world out of moralistic devotion to his master and is then patted on the back, given a ceremonial title of mayor (which Tolkien actually goes out of his way in the "concerning hobbits" forward to emphasize has no actual power or influence) and then goes right back to being a servant gardener only now he not only has to be a worthy servant he has a heroic reputation that precedes him to live up to. All the while the rest of upper Hobbit society gets to go right back to blissful ignorance atop the social order. It's the ultimate conservative capitalistic morality tale. Dangling the carrot of 15 minutes of fame in front of the lower classes as incentive to work hard (do that the poor will save their bacon when things do go bad) but makes it clear there is no actual means of raising one's station in life no matter how great your accomplishments.
Emotional expression
We need to express emotions not so that others can hear and understand them, but so we can hear and understand them ourselves. We need to get the message before we can do anything with it. Trickle down economics works.
But it works like a play in football; Only if every player does their job right. If any one player messes up the play can go horribly wrong for everyone. The Rich have to spend extravagantly, investing in new ventures, creating jobs, upgrading at every opportunity, etc to pour the money into the economy to trickle down. They only do this when they see more money coming down the pipeline from the businesses they profit on by the masses in the lower classes. Basically they are a QB that can't take a hit, and won't stay in the pocket long enough to let the play develop. If they can stand in the pocket, deliver a strike down the field, and take the hit, it could be a TD. But instead they get happy feet, roll out of the pocket, sprint to the sidelines for loss, and complain about tax cuts all the way back to the huddle. The middle class have to be content with their middle class status and be fiscally responsible with savings so that they can maintain their comfortable middle class lifestyle even in the case of an economic downturn. If they do not, the rich see the middle class's lack of spending capital and will stop spending themselves, drying up the economy. If the middle class becomes too ambitious and not satisfied with their status then they over extend themselves with risk and the middle class shrinks as the risk either booms and they move up or busts and they move down. The middle class has to stay strong to justify the role of the poor. They are an injured and taken for granted offensive lineman that doesn't have much loyalty to the QB, so holding blocks that split second longer isn't a priority. The poor have to be upwardly ambitious. They need to be hustling in the streets, and taking advantage of the fact that already being in poverty they have nothing to lose by taking big financial risk with big reward. As weird as it may sound, the poor doing things like being frugal, and trying to save up what little disposable income they have, violates the play in trickle down economics. Its like a receiver who runs routes all game, and never gets a ball thrown his way, only to get discouraged. And then he get blamed for being lazy for not selling out to make the impossible hail mary catch at the end of the game. I know I have written this before but I keep coming back to that Lionel Richie interview where he talked about as a child he was always told he was "so sensitive" but that is what makes him a good song writer. And I have to believe that describes me. And the reality is that same sensitivity is what made me "uncoachable", and being uncoachable is making me "unemployable." And it's not just stupid internet memes I've seen today. I think about the parable of the talents and if my sensitivity is a gift I have used it as nothing but a liability.
Yes I am trying to convince myself to do something artistic against my better judgement that I have no artistic ability. In a 2 party political system that basically encouraged gridlock, corruption (bribes, kickbacks, back room deals) is how you grease the wheels to keep the machine of government moving.
In a monarchy, there is not gridlock, so there is no real need for corruption. And if there is corruption, you call it treason and eliminate it like people dream of , but can't, stamp out corruption. |
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