These are people who didn’t quite make the 40 for 40 countdown, but maybe they should have? If these people had been greater influences, for better or worse, my life could look very different today. This is not so much about regret, as just to illuminate possibilities that might have been (or maybe still could be).
Dallas hated me.
I have no idea why.
He lived just up the street from me. We never even actually met. We got into a fight during a YMCA basketball game. Actually it wasn’t really a fight. He shoved me down and Ronnie Williams broke it up before I retaliated. He would harass me when ever he walked by my house and I was outside. I got randomly attacked at a DeSales football game by someone I don’t know who around the same time frame, but I had Carlos and Casey with me as back up, so whoever it was didn’t stick around for more. So I am going to assume it was him because I don’t have any other known assailants.
Was he a bully? Had I done something to him I wasn’t aware of? Was I just the right amount of weaker than him that I deserved to be put in my place, but not so weak that he would be blamed for picking on someone that was helpless? Maybe he had a lot of bad stuff happen to him and I somehow I reminded him of that bad stuff. I don’t know.
I do know that I mostly just ignored him and eventually he seemed to go away. I don’t know if he moved, or grew up or what.
So my only real experience in life with any kind of a legitimate bully was to ignore them and they went away, without ever having to either defend myself or work out our differences.
Not sure if that was a good thing for me or not? Not sure if that was a good thing for Dallas or not?
I tried to google him once. It looked like he might have become a house painter in Bellingham, but I can’t be sure.